Whenever the child’s experiences social environment diversified and the colours of his life varied, the speed of his growth increased accordingly. In his developed, developing childhood, he most needed to relate himself to different types of surrounding social environments. These environments have a strong influence on its growth. We will deal with these effects in detail when discussing the social development of the child in the coming chapters of this book, and we will suffice here to refer to the impact of the family in general and the brotherhood in particular and the existing culture in the speed of growth.
The child’s relationship with his family:
Our social life is unforeseen relationships. Which connects us with individuals, groups and the culture surrounding us. so we are affected, influenced, interacted and adapted to all of these.
The child is affected by his mother, father, siblings, and family, and also affects them, and so these influences extend and relate to their flesh until it becomes a psychosocial tissue in which the child lives.
The family is the first social unit and the basic environment that nurtures the individual, which is why it includes the most powerful influences that direct the growth of his childhood. This human childhood is almost a third of his entire life. Perhaps the length of childhood is due in essence to the social and economic systems that dominate our existing civilization.
The child’s life begins with vital biological relationships linked to his mother, based in essence on the satisfaction of organic needs such as food, sleep and warmth, then these relationships develop into close psychological relationships, and then develop from the basic primary relationships that bind the child to his father and brothers. Then the child is willing to establish for himself intermediate relationships that connect him with his colleagues and friends, then he connects with the wide community in which he lives and establishes for himself secondary relationships that bind him with him.
Thus, each of these relationships and every group of these groups, regardless of their image, leave their clear impact on each individual’s life.
The child’s development is affected by his birth order in the family, and thus the speed of growth of the first child differs from that of his other siblings, because the second child imitates his older brother, and the third child imitates the second child and the first child. Thus, this tradition speeds up the growth of the second and third children.
Childhood imitation is a strong pillar of learning and skills acquisition. Linguistic development, for example, depends, in essence, on young children imitating their parents and older siblings in their expressive voices and movements.
And the last child who is born after he grows up all his siblings is spoiled by his parents and siblings, so his maturation is delayed, the duration of his childhood extended, and the speed of his growth slows down in some aspects.
The child’s relationship with his siblings:
The only child who communicates with his parents directly soon and this connection affects his perception, thinking and other mental processes, positively and effectively, thus increasing the speed of his mental development. But this same close relationship affects from another angle a negative and harmful effect on the motor and physical development of the child, because the father and mother always help him in matters, but often save him this effort so that his motor development does not find a strong incentive to push him towards his maturity levels.
The child’s relationship with his siblings in Arab Culture.
The Arabs understood the effect of the Gregorian arrangement on the characteristics and characteristics of the personality. Among the reports which are extensive in Arabic literature. that Al-Harith bin Auf Al-Mari presented to Aws bin Harith Al-Tai as an address. He came to me as a suitor, and I wanted to marry you. What are you saying? She said: I do not accept. He said: Why? She said: Because I am a woman in my face an apostasy and in my character some trust. I am not a cousin to take care of my womb.
He is not next door to you in the country, so he is ashamed of you, and it is not safe for Mina to see what he hates, so he will divorce me so that he will be on and owing to you from that. So he dismissed her and called for his middle daughter and offered her what he showed to the eldest, and she said: I am clumsy and not in the hands of industry, nor is it safe for Muna to see what he hates, so he divorces me. When he called their younger sister, she said: But I swear by God, the beautiful her face, the handler, the sublime, he created the Husaybah as a father.
Child’s relationship with culture:
The child comes into contact with the culture that dominates family life and the large external community, influencing them and influencing them. And it absorbs from them traditions, customs, creation standards, sanctities and rituals. Rather, myths and myths, and this is how the individual arises and grows from its cradle to its limit within a social and cultural framework, influencing it and interacting with it, and takes care of its growth paths and the steps of its development.
“Just as the individual is born within a society, he is also born within a special culture and shaped by this culture, and he in turn shapes it. His production is a building that has its components and framework for it, and it directly affects the family and the school, and he strives hard in his endeavour to adapt himself to culture when he imitates to learn the general methods of life that he desires for himself.
“Thus, culture is the product of society and its individuals. The individual influences the current culture, as a result of being affected by the cultural heritage that descends to him during past generations.
Culture and society are two closely-knit phenomena. Every culture has a human society, and every human society has a culture that distinguishes it. If we erase its culture from any society, then we will have recorded its humanity and relegated it to the level of non-human animal groups.
“Culture in this sense – is the outcome of the interaction existing between the individual, society and the environment, and it is the fruit of the individual’s relationship with the individual and with time, place and the universe.”
Usually, the behaviour of parents affects the children. Children are born from a young couple who are different from children 6 who are born from two husbands who have gone beyond the stage of youth to old age.
The research carried out by Lejeune and Terrain R.Turpin indicated that the proportion of male children decreases according to the increase in the age of the parents, and thus the percentage of female children increases according to the decrease in the proportion of males. However, recent research has begun to cast many doubts about the validity and generalization of these results.
Paujat explained that children born to a married couple live longer. Comparatively, those born to a married couple who are approaching old age. The probability of increasing the life span of the children decreases according to the increase in the child’s birth order. that is, the life span of the first child is greater than the life of the last child. These studies confirm that the proportion of deformed and demented children increases according to the mother’s age, especially after the age of 45 years